It’s normal to have a bad day from time to time. But there is a difference between being in bad mood and having a bad attitude. When you’re having a bad day, it’s out of your control. Maybe you got up on the wrong foot and everything that could possibly go wrong that day did go wrong. In this case, it is completely OK to show out your sorrow and anger towards what should have been a perfectly good day and turned out bad.
Here’s a quote from John Mitchel: “Our attitude towards life, determines life’s attitude towards us.” We have the power, through our attitude, to bring about success in our life.
Did you ever notice how people with a positive attitude tend to enjoy life more and be happier and more successful?
You were born with a certain personality, that is true. Then along the years, the people you met and the situations you encountered influenced the way you developed. All the different experiences you’ve had created the person you are now.
But it doesn’t mean you’re not in charge to actively modify your attitude. At any time, you can take a step back and work towards improving your attitude.
We’re going to take it one step at a time.
1. Find out what needs to be changed
Before you get started changing your attitude, you have to find what needs to be improved. If your phone is not working anymore. You don’t just randomly tap everywhere hoping to hit the right key. You look into it and try to find where the issue is coming from. Then you can fix it and go back to enjoying using it.
Same goes for your attitude, you first need to find out what part of your attitude needs to be changed. It involves you evaluating your behaviour and honestly exploring which points need to be changed. Did you snap at your mom because you had a bad day at school? Are you moody because you feel misunderstood? Are restless in class because you feel frustrated? Find out the real reason behind those behaviours.
So take a piece of paper and down any mean or negative behaviour you noticed. Then for each of them, find the reasons behind them. Take as much time as you need.
Then move on to the next step.
2. Choose your role-model
Find someone who has the kind of attitude you would like to have. Do you know anybody that could be your role model? Would it be a member of your family or a famous scientist, politician, influencer, sportsperson or artist? Can you think of anyone you look up to?
It makes it easier for you to model your attitude to match someone you admire. It keeps you motivated as you’re not alone anymore. You have a great example to look up to.
Who is your role model? Write her or his name there. Find a picture of your role model and stick it up on your wall. When looking up at someone, having a visual reminder is always better.
Then, why this person is inspiring to you? What attitude from them would you like to model? Why are you looking up to them?
Once this has been done, move on to the next step.
3. Benefits of changing your attitude
When we need to make a change, in any aspects of our life, even changing the colour of the wall in our home, we need to see the interest of it. Otherwise, we would never move a finger.
You need to find a good reason or many to modify your behaviour. Will it give you a happier relationship with your parents? Will it improve the bond with your siblings? Will it make your life easier at school? Will it help your marks in class?
What will changing your attitude add to your life? How will it upgrade it? What benefits will you receive from it?
The biggest obstacle between you and your ideal life is your incapacity to believe in yourself. Once this is removed you uncover your potential and realise there’s no limit to what you can you. You can change your life by changing your thoughts and how you go about it. You are not doomed to fail and never change. The power is within you. Every day you make the choice to react to things and behave with people from either a positive or negative outlook.
What do you want to happen in your life? Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter how ridiculously far from where you are now, you have the power to make it happen.