Mistakes are a great way to learn and grow. Learning from your mistakes is the best way to make sure you do not repeat them over and over again. When you take the time to acknowledge and review what went wrong, instead of making excuses and pretend there’s nothing that can be improved from your side, you finally show the skill of a confident young adult ready to tackle down any challenges coming your way.
In this article, I am going to present you with my five tips to ensure you make the best out of this learning experience they call life.
1. Take Responsibility
When you make a mistake, I said it before throughout this course, the first thing is to accept your responsibility in it. Skip this step, and you will never grow. Now because this one is so important; I have another article dedicated to it.
2. Analyse What Happened
It’s never a good idea to dwell on your mistakes. that’s for sure. Nonetheless, you need to analyse them in order to find out what went wrong and what you can do better next time. You need to discover:
- What went wrong?
- What needs to be done differently?
- How will you apply this knowledge?
So take a piece of paper, a pencil and uncover your inner detective.
For it to work, you have to be fully honest with yourself. Remember, you’re doing it for yourself and no one else. You do not need to show this exercise to anybody. My personal tip here and when you make a mistake, ask yourself what you were trying to achieve. Once you’ve answered this question. Ask yourself why five times to dig even deeper discover the root cause of your issue. Playing detective with yourself is the more ludic way to get around this part. Just find the Sherlock Holmes in you and crack the case.
3. Create a Strategy not to Repeat your Mistake
Change is scary. Nobody likes change. We like familiar. That’s where you feel comfortable. But as I mentioned before, nothing happens in the comfort zone. You need to start being comfortable with change. Because in order to learn from your mistakes, you will need to start making some changes around how you deal with some situations.
Dwelling on them and beating yourself up is not going to change anything. It will just make you feel down and lower your level of motivation. So, stay away from this and move on to the more rewarding behaviour that is doing it differently next time.
Start by making a plan aiming at avoiding repeating the previous behaviour. Be flexible around the idea to make changes and to maybe even change plan if it’s still not working.
Involving someone in the process can be a great idea as it will help your motivation. Find yourself an accountability buddy with whom you can share your plan and you will be sure to be kept on track.
4. Watch How You Grow
It’s only human to make mistakes. You shouldn’t feel the need to beat yourself up indefinitely just because you did something you shouldn’t have. We learn so much more from erring and correcting than doing things perfectly from the first try.
That said, keeping track of everything success you will have in the process is the best way to keep you going. To do so, I always recommend starting a Success Bank. Creating a Success Bank is the most efficient way to keep track of your progress and keep you motivated. To create a Success Bank, I usually advise to use a clean jar and put it somewhere visible like your desk. Every time you achieve something, write it on a piece of paper and put it folded in the jar. This way, as the jar fills up, you can see how much you have achieved.
5. Remind Yourself: Never Again!
Sometimes, all you need, is a little reminder of why you’re doing all this. Why are you taking this course? Why are you making all these efforts? What are you trying to get out of this personal work?
Make a list of reasons why you do not want to keep repeating the same mistakes. Clearly states which mistakes you have in mind. The consequences of said mistakes and why you want to be rid of them and finally grow.
Self-discipline is a muscle. Each time you stop yourself from indulging in a familiar but harmful way, you grow mentally stronger.